Ecstasy

When there's flare in your eyes,
When your heart is racing to no end,
When your sweating profusely,
When your muscles contract
And your pupils dilate...

When there's no worries or care in the world,
When heaven monopolizes your mind,
When this tingle engulfs your nerves,
When your entire core becomes relaxed,
That is the moment of ecstasy...

Why are men being sent to Jail for unpaid child support?

The working parents are paying taxes for the jails anyway, so if you aren't collecting child support...why are you going to pay even more to put him in jail?  Every time we turn around they are expanding the jails or creating new ones.  That is money out of the tax payers dollars and we aren't making enough to support an expansion of anything in this economy. 

I'm surprised if the judge doesn't order him to get a job within a certain amount of time and pay it according to what he's making.  Then that's when the man goes out and obtains these low paying jobs, so they aren't paying a lot in child support.  Why wouldn't you want to make more money for yourself and your child?  Why wouldn't you want to support your child?  You're thinking the money is going to the mother so you don't want her to have that much.  The mother's are the ones who are taking care of the child, so if the money goes towards supporting that child's needs, then so be it.  At least you know that the water is hot, clothes are on their back, a roof is over their head, food is in their stomach, shoes are on their feet, gas and car note is good in order to transport to and from school/activities/father.  I don't understand how a man wouldn't want to provide for his children.

I don't think locking them up is the answer to the problem of unpaid child support.  If there were more programs for men to go out there and go through some type of training and provided with a job, then they would probably get off the streets and do something more positive with their life, which would be beneficial to their children.  I would support a company or even the government if the money was used to better them and not hold them down.  I am not going to support expansions of jails to solve this issue.  Leave the jails to the real criminals(murderers, rapist, pedophiles, etc.)!

You have to ask....Why don't they pay child support?  Is it because they don't think the child is theirs?  Is it because they don't want children and its better to deny then to step up?  I thank God for the Maury show!  Maury has proven a lot of whose the father scenarios.  Some will never find their baby daddy because of their own irresponsibility.  A woman has to step up and be a mother if she gets pregnant, so she doesn't have a choice to deny the child, if she plans on keeping it and raising it.  If she feels she isn't ready, there is an option for adoption.  What if she never puts the child up for adoption and raises the child?  The man now has a responsibility to support that child.  When a child is given up for adoption, I believe both parents(if known) have to relinquish their parental rights.  If the man knows he fathered a child, he should be a man and step up and support this child to the best of his ability.  He was man enough to lay down and be intimate; he is man enough to get a job/career and support his child.  No excuses!!!

 

When you know its over

When the phone calls start to cease,
When they come in later than usual,
When they start to pursue other people,
When the sex isn't enjoyable anymore and short lived,
When secrets started to expose themselves...
It's over!

When your feeling start to change to all about themselves,
When they start to say things that hurt,
When they start to accuse you when they are the ones that are unfaithful,
It's over!

I will continue my life with or without you...time waits for no one! 

Mommy, I'm pretty with long hair...Am I White??

My daughter came to me and asked me if she was White.  I looked at her pretty caramel skin and long beautiful hair and replied, "no baby, we are a mixture of races; not just black and not just white.  There are other ethnicities in between Black and White."

"But I'm pretty with long beautiful hair, I must be White, I can't be black because my hair is not nappy and my skin isn't dark," said Kayla.  "Not everyone who is Black has nappy hair and dark skin.  Nappiness only comes from not taking care of your hair." 

I began to tell her what my grandparents told me..."In the old days, they said that if a person has a drop of Black blood in them; they are considered Black.  African American people range from very light skinned to very dark skinned.  There are a lot of different countries other than the United States, which have their own look and language.  Back in the days other countries invaded other countries and the diversity became worldwide," I explained. 

"Ohhhh, so that's why I look the way I do?" asked Kayla.  "Yes baby, we have many different ethnicities in our blood; our family is very diverse."  "Just so happen that we are beautiful due to our DNA from all different types of ancestors from different ethnicities," I explained. 

"Everyone is beautiful in their own way, no matter what type of hair they have or the color of their skin.  God made everyone in his image and loves us all equally...we are all beautiful to him."  I stated.

The Road of Life...

Life has its ups and downs, but the choices we make determine which path we choose.  We may start off on the wrong path, but eventually we end up on the right path before it's too late.  Sometimes we go through experiences that we wouldn't want to go through again.  Those are the experiences that make us stronger and who we are today.  We will not encounter an experience that we cannot handle.  It takes a lot of will-power and determination to surpass that experience.  There will always be rough patches in the river, but in the end it is very calm and collected.  They say we only have one life to live, but others say you take what you have learned from this life and apply it to the next, which in return is a step closer to righteousness.

Gates to Heaven

Ashes to ashes; Dust to dust...
That is what they say is a must!
Return to peace and return to the King.
From versus of a southern ritual we sing.
For men born of a woman, but has a short time to live,
During your lifetime, it is best to give, give, give.
The keys to heaven we hold in our heart,
With that our souls with the King will never part.
No one knows when that call back to him will be,
'Til then we just have to obey yet live free.
The impression you leave here on earth,
Will determine your existence and worth.
Judgment day will seperate the ones who have faith and the ones without,
On that day, there would be no need for anymore doubt.
The word has come to fruition and reality sets in,
For those who obeyed and have faith may enter the gates no matter what the sin.
Our souls cry out in joy,
Our voices lifted up in rejoice.
Our hearts filled with unconditional love,
The gates of heaven we fly through like innocent doves.

Kids these days...

Children these days are more into video games, television and fashion.  Kids have become spoiled compared to kids about 20 years ago.  In the old days, every child was outside burning energy, strengthening their social skills and just being kids.  You rarely see kids outside this day in age.  They are inside eating up everything (mostly junk food), glued to the television or glued to the video games.  Where is this world coming to?  How are they supposed to strengthen their minds with useless resources?  Children today also are more sexually active and try to act grown, when they are not...mostly due to television and school environment.  They constantly talk back and try to defy you, like they know more than you do.  What they need to do is be the age that they are and listen to the elders who have already been down that road...maybe they will learn something without having to go through the tough times of others.  Read a book, watch the history & discovery channel and research events, people and places on the computer...very beneficial.  We have to pave the educated way for our children or else they will be no asset to the future...to their future! 

Casual sex VS Spontaneity

Sex is a great way to relieve stress, get the heart rate pumping and get those muscles moving.  Having sex with someone who stimulates your every desire feels exponentially better than someone who doesn't.  Qualities that person possess run through your mind during intimacy and orgasms begin to flow in.  Usually someone that hasn't hurt you, you have no drama with and/or is nothing but blissful with them, make the act much more enjoyable.  When having sex with someone and any type of ill thoughts or feelings cross your mind, will hinder the enjoyment of intimacy and may take you longer to reach your peak, if you reach it at all.  Spontaneity is an entertaining intimacy booster.  Having routine sex can become boring and possibly painful due to lack of lubrication.  Introducing spontaneity into the relationship (whatever that may be) will surpass any ill thoughts or feelings (if there are any) sometimes and you begin to focus just only about the here and now.  Pleasing the other person is important and beneficial to you and your partner.  You actually get more performance out of them and yourself.  When you perform the things they enjoy...they in return perform the things that you enjoy; it becomes a win-win situation.  Not everyone you encounter intimately would be a fit or a companion.  Sometimes two people have this unexplainable chemistry...they try and work it out as a couple, but then you realize that it wouldn't work as companions and are better off as friends or just explicit intimate partners.  Those are the ones that you store in the flight data recorder and remissness on what you've shared.  

Deception...Aint is something?

Deception is equivalent to lying.  Once you tell one lie you have to tell many others to cover up the first lie.  Just tell the truth and everything will be fine.  Deception gives the person who is deceiving the upper hand and that's unethical.  

Earthquake in Haiti...What about home?

My heart and prayers go out to all the people in Haiti and their families who are in mourning for their loss or uncertainty.  I pray that things are restored better than they were before.  What about home?

What about New Orleans that still hasn't been restored since August 29, 2005?  80% of New Orleans was flooded due to failure of federally built levee system.  It took the government three weeks to arrive in New Orleans, but the earthquake happened yesterday, January 12, 2010 and they are already talking about aiding Haiti.  Where was this help for your own citizens that were born here on American soil, pay taxes and work hard for a living?  It was still sitting in the governments pocket!!  Where were those ally countries to our aide?  Hiding behind their own government.  The news stated that it will take $2.0 billion to restore Haiti...Where is this money coming from?  Our tax dollars?  Is it just me or this doesn't sound right!  It was estimated to take $100 billion to restore New Orleans, but no talk of actually making that happen has been discussed.  There are many Americans out of work right now and all the government could talk about is helping other countries.  What about the help of your own people?  AMERICANS!!  Our government has its priorities out of line and its up to the American citizens to rise up and fight for our own support. 

In love with a married man...

I met this handsome and intelligent man on a business trip.  He didn't make a sexual pass at first, so I took him as being a gentleman.  We laughed, ate and drank the whole night we were together.  He treated me like an absolute queen!  Anything I wanted or needed...he provided.  The conversation was so intellectual and enjoying that it felt like there could be more there other than an attraction.   We exchanged telephone numbers and email addresses to keep in touch because it was what we both wanted.  It was great talking to him all the time and getting to know someone on a deeper level than sexual intimacy.  Yes, the urge was there, but I am a lady first and I will wait until it is the right time for me.  I started to develop feeling for him in a short period of time and it felt real...it felt like the beginning stages of love not lust.  About three months into the new relationship, things started to get strange; calling later than normal, not answering my calls as much, talking low on the phone.  That's when I put two and two together...He's married!!  I asked him bluntly and he finally confessed.  When he confessed, he also pulled out the divorced papers...stating that he has been going through a divorce before we met and that I am the woman he wants to be with.  I feel that he is off limits because they are still legally married; and karma will come back to me even worse if I hang on to this married man.  I don't know why he didn't tell me in the beginning...it would've been different.  Why does this always happen to me...meet a great, intelligent, handsome, sexy guy...he's always married!?  He still wants to be with me when his divorce is over, but I'm not sure I want that now.  We still are friends, but the conversation has its limits.  Maybe I'm leading him on by continuing to be his friend...